This is the first year I didn’t want to just lose weight/dress better/shave my legs more often/be cooler or work on any other ways that focus on my outwardly appearance. Instead, I decided to work inwardly in ways that will positively affect all aspects of my life that could use work.
This year my resolutions are the 3 C’s; Commitment, Consistency, Clarity
Every other day my commitments waver. I’ll be committed to posting more regularly, then committed to more healthful eating, committed to a specific weight lifting program, committed to keeping a calendar, committed to church, reading, being more patient, driving slower, and doing my hair more often.
Then I’m not. Then I have justifications, excuses, and, apparently, all the time in the world to make changes.
This year, instead of making a set of rules that will all be broken by February (because no one, not even myself, can tell me what to do…just ask Derrick…), I have made a broader outline that I can apply as I am able to the ways in which I want to grow.
- I want to be healthier, but more than that I am committed to becoming more educated in health.
- I want to improve my relationship with Derrick, and I am committed to practicing patience and presence when we are together.
- I want to spend more quality time with my loved ones, and I am committed to putting my phone away, shutting my laptop, and wasting less time on screens.
- I want to improve my relationship with God, and I am committed to listening to his word and educating myself so that I can grow in my understanding of Him.
- I want to keep our home better organized, and I am committed trying my best, but you try living with a man that thinks the coffee table is where is Tapatio goes and center pieces are really storage containers.
I go into 2016 with high [to moderate, realistically] expectations of myself over the next 12 months, but the understanding that each day will differ. The changes I seek to make are ones that could take years to accomplish, if at all.
I will eat pizza and donuts and the most incredible chocolate chip cookies Derrick makes a big batch of every week.
I will try my hardest to exercise patience, but some mornings I will get frustrated when Derrick throws the warm comfy covers off the bed to wake me up.
I will sit for longer than I should staring at meaningless information on Facebook when I have a list of things I should be doing.
I will have the best of intentions to make it to church every Sunday, but some I will choose to sleep in.
And some days the coffee beans will stay on the rice shelf because that’s where Derrick put it and I just won’t be in the mood to fight his systems.
I want to set myself up for success by not trying to require dramatic changes but to be forgiving. To follow these guidelines on most days, understanding that on the others I will want to eat what I want, do what I want, and say what I want- because I am human like that.
Resolutions are what you make of them, and I am a firm believer that you don’t need to wait until January 1st to make them. No matter the month, I will never knock someone down for trying to better themselves.
2016 will be what I make of it, just like each year, month, day is only as good as the attitude you have toward it and the commitment you had toward yours goals in it.
Things can only go up from here after the last few months Derrick and I had and I am committed to consistently working towards that.
What are your resolutions this year? What are you doing each day to make that happen?